Yesterday was a difficult day. I have made the parental mistake of believing that Preteen A's intelligence is equal to her maturity. It is not. She IS however and 11 yr old little girl. This past year she has been experimenting with her style and her identity and chose "Goth" as her avenue. I have allowed her to express herself thinking that she was mature enough to, and hoping that it would drizzle out... It has not.
Yesterday, she took her love of all things Goth and Emo one step too far. I called my girlfriends, cried, and then stripped her room of all things crossbones. I believe if you surround yourself in darkness, it will creep inside.
So I announced to her last night that I had made the decision. No more goth related items in the house. She cried off and on all night, I am pretty sure she hates my guts, which breaks my heart, which also lets me know I did the right thing. I feel so unequipped for this...
She might hate you now, but she will thank you later...
ReplyDeleteYea, it was the right thing to do... who knows what future awfulness you may have just saved both of you from. Kudos Lucky! Keep up the mean Mom good work! AmD
ReplyDeleteI think you made the right decision, though I'm sure it was hard. I believe it's best to keep them young & innocent as long as possible, and encourage them to enjoy their little girlhood.
ReplyDeleteI too agree that you made the right decision. It's a hard path between trying to let me make their own choices and protecting them at the same time!
ReplyDeleteOh, I feel for you! That is awfully hard. I don't even know what I'd think if my daughter wanted to goth out. I think I'd have to play that "not under my roof" card too. I agree that you become who/what you surround yourself with. Hang in there. This tween stuff is not for wimps, hunh?
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